Laura Schwinn | Psychologist

April 25, 2022

What is one piece of advice you’d share with expecting parents of their first child? 
Take time to acknowledge and nourish YOUR needs.  Parenthood is a lifelong journey, as an addition to all the other domains in which you are engaged in. 

How do I get my kids to share?
In addressing this question, let’s unpack the intention behind it.  So, let’s get curious. Why do you want them to share? Does sharing, or not, reflect in some way on you? Is it your desire for everyone to get along? These are just the tips of the iceberg. When we have a destination in mind, we can then plan how to get there.  At an early age, children have a natural attachment and desire to follow the primary caregiver(s) lead.  However, for anything to be authentic and genuine, it needs to be an embodied experience. One needs to understand the why. In sum, no one likes to be told what to do, and sharing is no different. However, kids tend to naturally share when they understand why.  And yes, it is okay for not all things to be shared.  Would you hand over your most prized possession to someone you just met at a park? 

Recommend a book, article or podcast in the child development space for families to read or listen to
Nonviolent Communication by Dr.Marshall Rosenberg
Hold onto your Kids by Drs. Gordon Neufield and Gabor Mate

What is your go-to parenting hack?
When tensions are high, HALT. Assess if anyone (or you!) are Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired. 

As a result of my services as a psychologist, I take clients from doubt and despair to confidence and knowing their self-worth. Embodying self-love, you respond, rather than react, to the world around you. As a result, you shine. 

The work I promote is in support of the feminine energy (not gender-related) to be reclaimed, rediscovered and unearthed. When living from this place, there is a trickle-down effect on ALL relationships, including awakening conscious parenting, conscious partnering, and conscious friendships. This work invites expansion, which leads to feeling open, joy, wonder, ALIVEness. 

Find Laura
Instagram: @inpsyful.psychologist